"The Talk"

Many children today seem to get their ideas and views about sex from others beside their own parents.  For the most part, these sources are not reliable sources for information regarding such a sacred matter.  It is the parent's responsibility to approach the subject of sex with their children.  This begins at an early age.  Children don't need to know everything from the get-go, but they should be taught what is appropriate for their developmental age.
Another topic that we discussed during class that I thought was interesting was girls' nights.  Were I live here in Rexburg, they are very popular among the married folks.  They turn out to be complaining sessions, not just about husbands, but also about other women.  When this observation was brought up, it rang very true to me.  Girls' nights don't create unity between spouses, instead, they create disunity.  One observation that I have noticed among those that are married is how much time they spend with their "best friend" rather than their spouse.  My husband and I have discussed how amazing it is that we see some women with their "best friend"more than I see them with their spouse.  Whether it's to go shopping or have a night out.  I understand that breaks are needed, but from the outside looking in, it seems that many women take that too far and forget to develop the relationship with their spouse.  I am grateful that my parents taught me early that where the family is, that's where you belong.  You don't have to be socializing with your friends to feel needed or loved.  Ultimately, you should get this from the Lord and your family.

Transition to Parenthood

I know, I know... I'm a week late for this blog post.  I was enjoying spending time with my family that I missed doing my blog for the regular time of the week.  It really threw off my groove :)   Anyway, two weeks ago in my family class, we discussed the transition into parenthood.  This was a topic of interest for me because my husband and I are getting for our first child to make her appearance.  Along with getting her here safely, I also worry about how my relationship with my husband will change.  I have realized that how the marriage fares after the birth of a child depends on large measure on what happens during the pregnancy.  Some of the suggestions were that the husband should attend doctor appointments, have him feel the baby kick, talk about the baby coming, and that the wife not be exclusive about the pregnancy.  As I reviewed some of these suggestions, I was relieved to find that my husband and I are on the right track.  He has attended all of the doctor appointments and is an active participant during them, especially during ultrasounds.  He already talks to our baby and loves to feel her kick around.  I know that he will be a great father but I know that we will also have to keep working on our relationship so that we are both able to feel satisfied in our marriage.

Happy Valentine's Day

Today is of course is February 14.   I have one amazing husband and I couldn't have married anyone better.  I really feel that the Lord placed us in each others lives for a reason.  As we have been talking about the different types of dating, I have thought about my own dating experiences.  The experience with my husband was by far the best one.  I recall how he exemplified the responsibilities of a Priesthood holder as we were dating.  He seemed to always have a plan for our dates which falls under preside.  He may have been nervous to ask me out on dates, but I don't remember ever getting that feeling.  In my eyes he portrayed confidence.  Also, we paired off and got to know each other intimately.  We also had double dates with others, but from the beginning we were very comfortable around each other and there were very few awkward moments.  This portrayed him protecting me, both from others and himself.  Finally, he always paid for our dates.  Sometimes I would feel guilty because I knew how much money a date would cost.  Yet this showed that he would provide for us in the future.  Another interesting fact I learned, was that the patterns established during dating continue on into marriage.  For example with finances, if the women helps pay for dates, that could establish that she is willing to contribute to providing for the family and working outside the home.

The Influence of Gender

"The Family:  A Proclamation to the World" is truly inspired!  As gender was the subject of this week, we talked about how boys and girls are born with talents and skills that help them in their future roles as adults.  For example, girls tend to be nurturing to dolls and boys like to make guns out of anything and pretend to shoot people.  From the video that was assigned, it was interesting how toys manufactures have tried to market trucks to girls and dolls to boys and they end up losing money because boys are generally more drawn to trucks and girls are more drawn to dolls.  These types of scenarios help show how the different genders are born with inherent qualities that distinguish them from one another.  It also helps establish the fact that both a mother and a father are needed to raise a child.  A mother and father have different approaches to raising a child that help influence a child's proper development.  The most interesting fact that I found was how parents hold babies.  Mothers tend to hold babies close and facing towards them.  On the other hand, fathers hold babies facing out to the world.  To me, this was very interesting and one that I have seen many times displayed before with people at church and those in my own family.