Everyone struggles to effectively communicate with others. Part of the reason for this is because we know what we mean, but others may not because they may have different definitions for the words that we use. One of the early tasks of marriage is to create shared meaning with each other. Most often this is a challenge for couples. It is difficult when two people have come from two different backgrounds, yet it can be done.
Someone in class brought up the HALT method. This means that if you and/or your spouse are hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, to step away from the situation and then come back later to assess the situation. If I had known about this before, it may have saved me from some very unpleasant situations and hurt feelings. I plan on using this in the future with my husband as well as with my children.
Another topic that was discussed this past week was that when you learn another person's language, you communicate love to that person. This can also be applied to families. When we learn the different dialect of our family members we are showing to that person that we care about and love them. This can also be a challenge but it is very rewarding.
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